Wedding Invitation Wording

The last thing newlyweds want to do is brew anger amongst one of their parents. Unfortunately, inappropriate wedding invitation wording makes this an easy task. By inappropriate, we’re not referring to vulgar language or blatant misspelling, but rather name omissions. You’d be surprised how easily a missing name on your wedding invitation wording can set off a tidal wave of anger. Since we know many of you are stuck trying to decide whether to include both the names of you and your groom’s parents, we thought we’d share some suggestions to ease the burden of making a decision. Please note that some of the following recommendations may return to bite you in the butt. Take extra time to think things through before omitting any sort of names from your wedding invitation wording.

How do most people decide what names go on their wedding invitation? Simple, they look to see whose family (either the bride’s or grooms) has contributed the most money to the wedding. While you’re free to use money as the basis for whose name makes it in your wedding invitation wording, we don’t recommend taking this approach. You have to remember that you and your groom’s families may come from different backgrounds bearing varying financial situations. There’s not sense in penalizing one of your families because they simply can’t afford paying for some portion of your wedding. If either of your families didn’t contribute because they didn’t feel like it, that still doesn’t constitute striking their name from the wedding invitation wording. While we could agree that they would deserve a name omission, you really don’t want to create a hostile environment between you and your groom and members of your/his family. Such conflict could deteriorate the quality of your wedding and thus we can conclude it’s senseless to spur it.

If you happen to be really set on the idea of omitting someone(s) name from the wedding invite wording, you should seriously consider contacting the person. Surprisingly, the person(s) may not mind as much as you may think. If they have some sort of objection to having their name(s) omitted from the wedding invite wording, try to give them some reasons why you feel it is appropriate. If they continue to object to the action, thank them for their input and continue toggling the idea.

Just a quick reminder: be sure to consult your future spouse before finalizing the omission of a person’s name from the wedding invitation wording. This is always a good idea as it will ensure that conflict doesn’t develop between you and your future spouse. You want to keep conflicts minimal into hopefully long after you’ve been married.

Now that you’ve absorbed what has been said above, we encourage you to carefully think about who you’re not going to incorporate into your wedding invitation wording and why. Don’t be rash and make an omission without consulting anyone. Take your time, inform all the appropriate parties, and take all the other appropriate communicative channels. This will guarantee minimal speed bumps in planning and subsequently enjoying your wedding.